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Is it time to "clean house?"


Spring is coming… time of rebirth in nature...flowers coming up, grass becoming green again, leaves sprouting on all our trees and bushes. It is a customary time to think of spring cleaning in our homes and offices. But how about some sprucing up for ourselves? If you, or someone you know, have unresolved issues regarding family abuse, this is a great time to "clean house" and find a new outlook on life. Issues we don’t deal with can become bigger and darker over the years. Our program here in Shelby County, as in all our counties, is free and completely confidential. We are here for both individual and group counseling for adults and for children. We would be happy to meet with you to talk about your issues and to develop a plan to make this your best spring and summer ever. Give us a call at 217.774.4888 or 217.774.3121 to make an appointment or to have your questions answered. -Susie Kensil, Shelby County Coordinator

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