Friday, February 20, 2015

We Need Volunteers

Dove, Inc began in 1970 as a place for people to put their faith into action and to volunteer.  Many times it was to volunteer to meet others in situations different that yours.  Today, 45 years later, Dove still relies on the talents, time and dedication of many volunteers.  Last year, more than 105,000 hours were logged in by Dove volunteers, helping out our agency and many other agencies by the RSVP Volunteers

All the programs have active volunteers helping out.
Currently we are seeking additional volunteers in the program listed below:

  • BABES (Beginning Awareness Basic Education Studies)
  • Children's Clothing Room
  • and the Domestic Violence Program

Please link to the web site to learn about these programs and to keep a watch on future volunteer needs.  Those seeking to volunteer with the Domestic Violence Program, registration for the May training will begin on March 9.

People are always joining the RSVP program, seeking a quality use of their volunteer time in more than 80 agencies in Macon and DeWitt Countries.  If you are 55 years of age, please check the web site for that program's enrollment form and get started volunteering soon.

Friday, February 13, 2015

It's Not the Gift

Valentine’s Day is a holiday that puts great emphasis on relationships.  Advertising spotlights the perfect card, the perfect floral arrangement, the perfect jewelry.  Many people concentrate on that, failing to realize that nothing is perfect.  The retailers are happy, because Valentine’s Day profits can be a bright spot in a dismal winter shopping season.  People who are expecting the “perfect” gift to make their relationship “perfect” are usually not so happy.  Instead of all the attention to the “perfect” gift, Valentine’s Day is a good chance to take a look at our relationships  to make them better.

At Valentine’s Day, the emphasis is on romantic relationships, but we each have all sorts of relationships in our daily lives……, friends, co-workers, etc.   Many of the same things that make a romantic relationship healthy will  work in our other relationships as well.    But, since it is Valentine’s Day, we will look at romantic relationships .

The most important thing we can do in any relationship is to take responsibility for ourselves, emotionally and otherwise.  We each have the ability to be happy; no other human being can do that for us.  A good relationship with another person can add to our happiness, but we cannot put the burden of “making us happy”  on anyone but ourselves.  So many times we let the moods and demeanor of other people affect the kind of day we are having.  Abraham Lincoln once said, “Each of us has the ability to be as happy as we make up our minds to be.”  Indeed, we not only have that ability, we have the responsibility to do that in our relationships.  This does not mean that we accept abusive behavior and make ourselves happy with that.  Abusive behavior immediately moves a relationship to an unhealthy state and triggers the need to take measures to keep yourself safe.

Acceptance is another important factor in healthy relationships.  None of us are perfect; we all have things we do that may be irritating to others.  If someone treats you well, but can’t seem to find the hamper for their dirty socks, that may be something that requires acceptance ………or negotiation.  Again, abusive acts are never to be accepted, or negotiated.

Communication is necessary for any relationship to work.  We must be able to communicate to people with whom we interact what we want, need and expect.  Too often we expect other people to read our minds, or to instinctively know what we need.  This does a huge disservice to both parties.  By the same token, we must be ready to listen as our partner communicates their needs.

In healthy relations, each partner wants the best for each other.  We are excited to celebrate the good things that happen, and are there for support when things don’t turn out so well.  Fun is an integral part of good relationships.  It is easy to get bogged down in the troubles of life.  We must set aside time to have fun together, even if it is just for a few minutes during each day.  It is important also to keep “the spark” alive, whether it be emotional, sexual, or intellectual.  Early in relationships, romance is very important.  As the years pass, it is important to keep that.  It is also vital to be able to talk with your partner about anything and everything.  It is in this way we continue to learn about each other and to be exposed to new ideas and to grow as people.

The “recipe” for a healthy relationship seems to mirror the Golden Rule that many of us learned in childhood.........paraphrased it says that we should treat others as we wish to be treated.    While there is no magic wands when we are dealing with people, that seems as if it is a pretty good way to start a good relationship with anyone, romantic or otherwise.  Never accept abusive treatment from anybody; never expect anybody to accept it from you.

Happy Valentine’s Day, and best wishes for a year filled with healthy and rewarding relationships in all phases of your life.

Susie Kensil, Shelby County Coordinator

Friday, February 6, 2015

CONO Plans Candidate's Forums

The Coalition Of Neighborhood Organizations invites the public and especially all members of the neighborhood organizations, to be a part of the two upcoming candidate's forums. Know your candidates and you can be prepared for voting in the April 2015 elections.

The two evenings will begin with an informal Meet & Greet session with the forum beginning at 6:00 p.m. There will be predetermine questions asked by the CONO board then the floor will be open for questions from the audience . All residents of neighborhoods are encouraged to come with your questions. Refreshments will be served.

Candidate's Forum 

for Mayor and City Council Members
Tuesday, February 24, 2015, 5:30 p.m.
Decatur Public Library’s Madden Auditorium

for the Richland Community College Board, District 61 School Board,
 and the Decatur Park District Board 
Tuesday, March 24, 2015, 5:30 p.m.
Decatur Public Library's Madden Auditorium

Remember to VOTE whenever you are given the privilege to VOTE!

(Dove's Community Services/Decatur Area Project Program is very active with the CONO organization.)

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