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A New Year B new challenges B new goals B new outlooks B new beginnings.  It=s time to put AYOU@ first B what is it YOU need to make YOU happy?  What is best for YOU and your children?  If you are experiencing issues of abuse in your current relationship, please do not hesitate to call one of our 24 hour hotlines :
 
Macon County, 423.2238
DeWitt County, 935.6072
Moultrie County, 728.9334
Shelby County, 774.4888

Help is available!  No one deserves to be abused.  Abuse is NOT your fault and is NEVER justified. 

We all are involved in relationships B work relationships with colleagues and co-workers, family/friend relationships, relationships with our fellow church members, as well as any agency or organizational committee members and of course our partner relationships.   Any kind of relationship requires ongoing work in order for it to be positive. 

For us in the domestic violence program, on an ongoing basis we listen to our clients talk about the kind of relationship they have with their abuser.  These relationships start out to be normal, happy, and enjoyable.  Over time, they often take another path that ends up being destructive as a result of the abuse from the perpetrator who is using power and control in order to get what they want from their partner. 

Relationships that are based in power and control are unhealthy at best.  They damage one=s self-esteem, independence and any kind of positive decision making skills.  Unhealthy relationships consist of a pattern of jealousy and control B full of intimidation, isolation, verbal put downs, manipulation and mind games, physical, emotional and sexual abuse that rob one of their dignity and well-being. 

Often times, those who are experiencing these kinds of behaviors feel lost and don=t know where to turn.  If any of this sounds familiar, or it sounds like these are things that are happening to one of your friends or loved ones, please call one of our hotline numbers.  Help is available.  You deserve better B don=t settle for less than what you deserve.     
Teri Ducy,  Domestic Violence Program Director 

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