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JANUARY 22 B 31, 2014

My start date for Dove Domestic Violence Program was suppose to be January 6, 2014. I say Asuppose to be@ because that was the first day of our big snow storm. So I had a snow day for my Aassumed@ first day of work and began on January 7, 2014.  In order to be capable to perform the duties of my position as Domestic Violence Shelter Specialist, it was required of me to take the 40-hour domestic violence training. The 40-hour training was held in Bloomington, Illinois. It was very interesting, informative and, last but not least, very eye-opening!

 Each day we had interesting speakers present with power point presentation and Aon-the-job@ experience related to their areas of expertise.

 I learned that Domestic Violence is a pattern of abuse which may include verbal, emotional, physical and sexual abuse.  The cycle of violence systematically undermines the self confidence of the adult victim and inhibits her attempts to flee and become self-sufficient. Through the repeated cycle of violence, adult and child victims experience shame and humiliation.  Depression, anxiety and fear become pervasive and limit the victim=s ability to improve the quality of her life without outside support and intervention.   

This is where the Illinois Coalition Against Domestic Violence plays a very important part in helping the victims of Domestic Violence.  I learned that Dove Domestic Violence offers vital program components, i.e., 24-hour Hotline, 24-Hour Emergency Shelter and Support services, Criminal Justice & Legal Advocacy Services, Adult Individual Therapy, Support Groups for Youth and Adults, and Educational Groups for Groups & Adults. 

 During my 40-hour training various topics were covered, such as Abuser Characteristics, Power and Control, Types of Abuse, Cycle of Violence, Orders of Protections, Animal Abuse, Effects of DV on children, Safety PlanningYand the list goes on!  I would highly recommend attending the 40-Hour Domestic Violence Training. It was put together very well with many interesting topics covered by individuals specializing in their own areas of expertise.    This training has given me a basis of excellent information on which to build my desire to help the abused. It has also provided me with a network of friends on which I can call on for assistance regarding the many different areas of Domestic Violence. I=m thankful I was able to attend this training and am certain it will be put to good use!
Cheryl Carpenter, Shelter Specialist
Dove hosts Domestic Violence Education and Volunteer Training, usually twice a year.  The next training will begin on Monday, May 19 and end on Wednesday, June 4, 1:00 to 5:00 p.m. on the following days:

May 19, 20, 21, 22
May 27, 28, 29, 30
June 2, 3 4

at our Dean Simcox Conference Center, 302 S. Union, Decatur
Registration will be open April 7 through May 12.  Call 217.428.6616 to begin the registration process after April 7.  Check the web site for additional information
We have a great need of volunteers in our program!  Some of the areas you could be of assistance after completing the required training are answering the hotline, covering the shelter, co-facilitating a support group, filing, assisting with orders of protection, assisting with groups, and more.  Seeking volunteers for the counties of Macon, Moultrie, DeWitt and Shelby.






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